Do you always put others before yourself? Are you too nice? Do you give too much and get too little in return?
Counseling can assist you in making yourself a priority—without feeling guilty.
If any of the following is true for you, I can help:
- You want everyone to like you; you are a people-pleaser
- You are unsure of yourself, making it hard to move forward
- You defer to others when making decisions
- You believe yourself to be unworthy and undeserving
- You feel responsible for other people’s happiness
- You avoid conflict by being agreeable
- You hold yourself back to please others
- You say “Yes” when you really mean “No”
People can be insensitive, controlling, and manipulative. They may easily take advantage of your good nature. When they treat you as if you are inferior or inept, or when they dismiss you, it is hurtful. Still, you excuse their bad behavior.
You may be easily persuaded to do things that you don’t really want to do. In a dating situation, this can be dangerous to your safety. In long-term relationships, it can have equally devastating consequences for your well-being and autonomy.
At times, you too begin to believe that you are “less than,” and you stop speaking your mind entirely. This makes it a challenge to live a healthy, satisfied life. Feeling undeserving and unworthy might cause you to experience depression<link> or anxiety<link>, or both. I will work with you to manage these symptoms while helping you build resilience and create lasting change.
If you have experienced trauma at any point in your life, it can further complicate matters. Traumas often leave everlasting impressions on the body, mind, and spirit unless they are worked through and resolved.
You can stop handing your power over to others. When you relinquish the need for others’ approval, you gain the freedom to choose what is right for you.
By honoring and befriending yourself, your whole life improves. When you value yourself, you are self-protective and do not allow others to mistreat you. You are less vulnerable to emotional manipulators, and are increasingly skilled at setting boundaries with intrusive people.
People-pleasing can be overcome with guidance and support.
As your therapist, I will assist you in transforming your undesirable patterns and help you to honor yourself and pursue the life of your choosing. You will find that you are no longer stuck in habits and behaviors that do not work for you. You deserve to come first in your own life, and by putting yourself first, you will be empowered to take control. I will show you how!
Through counseling with me, you will:
- Learn to honor yourself by becoming your own priority
- Reclaim your personal freedom and your right to choose
- Set your own goals and reach them
- Build your self-esteem and confidence
- Learn effective direct communication skills
- Improve all of your relationships
- Celebrate your uniqueness and beauty
By engaging in therapy with me, you will shed the roles and labels that do not define you, and acknowledge your own competency. As you allow your true self to emerge, you will strengthen your self-reliance and command respect naturally.
In our work together, you will build resilience, developing the strength within yourself to look after your own needs and identify your own true likes and dislikes. You will embrace your options, stand behind your decisions, and follow your passion. You will gain greater meaning and a sense of purpose in your life.
I create a safe and comfortable counseling environment in which you can take a pause from your daily— often hectic—routine, and speak your truth. I will encourage you to spontaneously share what is in your heart. Our sessions will serve as a helpful space where you will be respected and feel supported.
I believe in your ability to overcome anything. You will feel my authentic interest in you, and my genuine commitment to helping you to be your absolute best.
I am passionate about my work. My personal journey to overcome my own limitations has taken me down diverse paths in search of my own truths, for my own growth and development. I have trained in a variety of professional therapy methods and practices, and have explored a wide range of philosophies and teachings. I can offer any or all of these, as needed, to suit your individual needs and goals.
I offer psychotherapy (talk therapy) as well as Somatic Experiencing, a mind-body system that works to heal unresolved trauma. Both methods are effective in assisting you to overcome the obstacles that are holding you back.
Embrace possibility. Become your best self.
Contact me for a free 20-minute in-person consultation. You can also sign up to receive my free Communications Handbook: A People Pleaser’s Guide to Speaking Up.